But this man has not only mentally rallied, he is recovering – and not only from his two recent health problems, but also from the debilitating stroke he had four years ago.
The man is my husband Bob, and his recovery is the result of the new discoveries in neuroscience that I write about in these columns. One discovery is how our brains re-wire themselves to see positives rather than negatives. This re-wiring ability has been conclusively shown to have enormously positive results – like decreasing depression, increasing happiness and improving our immune systems.
I know these things are possible – because I’m living it.
A few weeks before his second stroke, Bob began re-wiring his brain to see his positives rather than his negatives. He did it by noting “3 good things” that happened to him each day. It’s a simple exercise that takes about 5 minutes to perform, and it works.
Too simplistic to be true?
Two weeks after noting “3 good things” each night, Bob had his second stroke. His physicians, one by one, asked him how he stayed so positive. They were struck by Bob’s attitude. It was far and away more upbeat than anything they had seen in a man as ill as my husband was at the time.
One doctor took out his iPhone. I thought he was going to tell his wife or associates about the exercise. He was that excited. He tapped away, then shut his phone and said: “I need that for myself.” He had typed a private note to himself, stopping his examination of Bob mid-stream to do so. Bob and I were floored.
Don’t just take our word for it. Try it yourself, and let me know what happens.
Write down “3 good things” that happen to you today. Do it for 21 days. Your brain will begin to automatically look for positives rather than negatives – and who knows what that will bring you? You may notice, like Bob did, that you feel “really good.” Old health problems may begin to heal. Your relationships may move from stressful to joyful. Or, you may invent the next big idea – the one everyone’s waiting for.